How To Influence People Without Them Knowing

Discover These Powerful Influence Tactics

In today’s society the more skilled you are in persuasion the better. It’s not that persuasion suddenly has power, it always has and a select few who master it always rise to the top. It’s not necessarily always a nice top as in the case of persuaders such as Hitler, but that’s just focussing on the negatives – not what we want here. The top achievers are top communicators and persuaders. Fact. We absolutely need the support and cooperation of other people to help us in our respective journeys and the more you can persuade others to agree with and then help you, even if they don’t consciously realise it, the further you are going to go.

Here are some techniques to effectively influence and persuade virtually anyone but one Word Of Warning before we start and something I want you to bear in mind whenever you are intentionally trying to influence someone covertly. Most people aren’t stupid and have great instincts even if they choose to ignore those instincts a lot of the time. If you intentionally use covert influence tactics unethically, you will eventually get caught. You will become shunned and despised and when you do this kind of damage to a relationship, and you are no longer trusted, it’s very hard for you to come back.

So please, by all means learn influence tactics and employ them covertly but always bear the other person in mind and protect your long term relationships and reputation.

1) Be Nice And Be Friendly.

If you walk around smiling at people you will find you get lot of smiles back and help to brighten a few beings mind. Try to find all sorts of ways to compliment the people in your life, without being silly about it. This is a test to see if you can slide complements in without them really noticing it. Good covert tactics builder. If you just throw loads of blatant compliments at someone it is going to get really obvious.

People need listening and leaning posts. Be both. Let people know you are available if they need help and then MAKE SURE YOU HELP when they ask for it. If you offer to be a supportive and helpful friend and then make excuse or hold back you have lost their trust. Listening to someone is a fantastic skill to develop and very, very few people are good at it. Develop listening skills and tactics specific to this field. You can find loads of stuff on the internet specifically to do with developing listening skills.

Great listeners are often referred to as; “Highly intelligent and very interesting” even though all they do is listen!

2) Walk In Their Shoes On Their Map Of The World

Here’s another great rapport building skill which will get people to really like you and thus be far more receptive to your requests and prompts. Put yourself in their shoes. See life from their point of view. Feel the way they feel by imagining you are them. Seek the appropriate response you could give them when you are experiencing life according to them. What would be beneficial to them? What do you need? Is there a win-win? If not go with what is beneficial to them.

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Work Tip

WORK TO GET YOUR BOSS PROMOTED not yourself. If you are constantly working to help your boss succeed then when he gets promoted you are going to get his/her job. This is not about sucking up, it’s about having an attitude of success orientation. remember the average person works an average job their whole life. If you “Fit in with the crowd” at work you are probably just doing all the average things and that will get you average results – which in my opinion is nowhere – FAST.

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